• "I'm a Hard Core Woman of God" 
• I love the God of Abraham (Avraham);
  Isaac (Yitzchak); Jacob (Yaakov)
• He is indeed my all in all.
• I explain the importance of God's Hebrew Names and the various attributes that make Him everything to me.

Women by HadassahShabnamLal ©  6/18/2014.

A woman is only as powerful as she carries herself

She will wreak her vengeance by degrading any man who deceives her

She is most intolerant of her sisters in sin

She suffers the most by shouldering the responsibility of both motherhood and fatherhood when a man ends up in jail or deserts her

She again carries the heaviest burdens of a broken heart and spirit during times of war by losses of sons, brothers, husbands and fathers.

If she loves you, she will inspire you to do your best.

If she hates you, she will drive you to your worst.

If she is wise, she will admit to the superiority of the man by imitating him

Our Jewish (Hebrew) Roots © Shabnam Hadassah Lal

June 28, 2011 at 1:45pm

• the Torah and the One who completed the Torah (Yeshua Messiah). Romans 10:4 the proper translation: not the culpability that has occurred in deliberate omissions, reworks and additions resulting from an anti-Jewish and anti-Torah theological bias. "The Messiah is "goal at which the Torah aims," not "the end of the law" as many Gentile versions of the Scripture state.
• Elohim has chosen to “reveal His hidden mystery" of the Jewish connection and the Jewish roots of the Christian faith through the Hope Pin and the Covenant Pin.
• He has also revealed the Power of his Abramic Covenant and the supremacy of his Semitic/Hebrew name and Language Zep. 3:9 "For then I will restore to the peoples a pure language that they all may call on the name of the LORD, to serve Him with one accord." The Yud is entrenched in the IJNHope Logo in the form of a Y His Name (YHWH); Yeshua Messiah; Y’israel; the Y’hudim (Jews), and culmination of his plan in the New Yerushalayim including both Jew and Gentile. The Megan David (Star of David). The Israeli Crystal and the Red Cross. 

• Yeshua was born a Jew; a Hebrew descended from Abraham/Avraham, Yitzchak/Isaac, Yaakov/Jacob, tribe of Judah/Y'huda all Hebrews. He was of the dynasty of King David hence the Davidic Covenant. He was steeped deep in the Hebrew culture of His people and was an observant Torah keeper. Isa. 2:3 The Torah/Law will go out from Zion, the Word/Yeshua of the Lord from Jerusalem. 

• For the first 70 years after His death and Resurrection, believers were considered to be a Sect of Judaism. The early followers were called "believers of the Way of "Y'shua."  The label "Christian" was not commonly used until the second century and was actually first used as a derogatory term.

• Yeshua is still a Jewish Messiah
• The Semitic name of Jesus is Yeshua and in his lineage, there are 12 men whose Semitic names begin with a Y.
• Yeshua was born in Yisrael of the dynasty of King David. He was a descendant of Judah/Y’hudah and was thus called an Y’hudi or Y’hu-dim (Jew, Judean).
• Yeshua died and rose from the grave in the Jewish Capital; Yerushalayim.  Luk. 24:27 “repentance and remission of sins should be preached in his name to all the nations, beginning at Yerushalayim.”
• Act 1:8 “But you will receive power when the Holy Spirit comes on you; and you will be my witnesses in Yerushalayim, and in all Judea and Samaria, and to the ends of the earth."

• The closest relatives and emissaries of Yeshua were all Jews Y’hu-dim.
• Salvation came from the Jews and came to the Jews first.
• Messiah’s vicarious atonement is rooted in Jewish sacrificial system.
• Lord’s Supper is rooted in the Jewish Passover.
• Immersion/Mikva/Baptism is a Jewish Practice.
• Yeshua said, “Salvation is from the Jews”
• The New Covenant was promised by a Jewish prophet Jeremiah (31:33)
• Much of the New Testament is incomprehensible apart from its Jewish context.
• Sha’ul/Paul was chief emissary to Gentiles, a lifelong observant Jew.
• Yeshua will come a second time to rule as the King of Yisrael and bring peace to the world.

• The NT is built upon and completes the Hebrew (OT) Scriptures.   

I have somehow gotten my stuff totally sorta mixed up. Yikes...

I found this awesome article in my archives that really hits the nail on the head. I add that many people with these types of personalities also exhibit ABUSIVE TENDENCIES DUE TO THEIR SELFISH BEHAVIORS AND MANIPULATIVE WAYS.  I am not in any way infringing upon his intellectual property but sharing it to inform everyone. Thank you.

8 Toxic personalities to avoid Brett Blumenthal - Sheer Balance, on Wed May 13, 2009
Although we like to think that the people in our lives are well-adjusted, happy, healthy minded individuals, we sometimes realize that it just isn't so.  Personally, I've had moments where I'll be skipping through my day, happy as can be, thinking life is grand and BAM, I'll be blindsided by someone who manages to knock the happy wind out of my sails.  Sometimes it is easy to write it off and other times, not so much.

Maybe you are a positive person, but when you are around a certain individual, you feel negative.  Or, maybe you have an idealistic view of the world and when you are with certain people, you are made to feel silly, unrealistic or delusional.  Or, maybe you pride yourself in being completely independent and in control of your life, but when you are around a certain family member, you regress into a state of childhood.

Some of these situations, and yes, these people, can have a tremendously negative impact on our lives.  And, although we are all human and have our 'issues,' some 'issues' are quite frankly, toxic.  They are toxic to our happiness.  They are toxic to our mental outlook.  They are toxic to our self-esteem.  And they are toxic to our lives.  They can suck the life out of us and even shorten our lifespan.

Here are the worst of the toxic personalities out there and how to spot them:

1. Manipulative Mary: These individuals are experts at manipulation tactics.  Is a matter of fact, you may not even realize you have been manipulated until it is too late.  These individuals figure out what your 'buttons' are, and push them to get what they want.

• Why they are toxic: These people have a way of eating away at your belief system and self-esteem.  They find ways to make you do things that you don't necessarily want to do and before you know it, you lose your sense of identity, your personal priorities and your ability to see the reality of the situation.  The world all of a sudden becomes centered around their needs and their priorities.

2. Narcissistic Nancy: These people have an extreme sense of self-importance and believe that the world revolves around them.  They are often not as sly as the Manipulative Marys of the world, but instead, tend to be a bit overt about getting their needs met.  You often want to say to them "It isn't always about you."

• Why they are toxic: They are solely focused on their needs, leaving your needs in the dust.  You are left disappointed and unfulfilled.  Further, they zap your energy by getting you to focus so much on them, that you have nothing left for yourself.

3. Debbie Downers: These people can't appreciate the positive in life.  If you tell them that it is a beautiful day, they will tell you about the impending dreary forecast.  If you tell them you aced a mid-term, they'll tell you about how difficult the final is going to be.

• Why they are toxic: They take the joy out of everything.  Your rosy outlook on life continues to get squashed with negativity.  Before you know it, their negativity consumes you and you start looking at things with gray colored glasses yourself.

4. Judgmental Jims: When you see things as cute and quirky, they see things as strange and unattractive.  If you find people's unique perspectives refreshing, they find them 'wrong'.  If you like someone's eclectic taste, they find it 'disturbing' or 'bad'.

• Why they are toxic: Judgmental people are much like Debbie Downers.  In a world where freedom rings, judgment is sooo over.  If the world was a homogeneous place, life would be pretty boring.  Spending a lot of time with these types can inadvertently convert you into a judgmental person as well.
  

5. Dream Killing Keiths: Every time you have an idea, these people tell you why you can't do it.  As you achieve, they try to pull you down.  As you dream, they are the first to tell you it is impossible.

• Why they are toxic: These people are stuck in what is instead of what could be.  Further, these individuals eat away at your self-esteem and your belief in yourself.  Progress and change can only occur from doing new things and innovating, dreaming the impossible and reaching for the stars.

6. Insincere Illissas: You never quite feel that these people are being sincere.  You tell a funny story, they give you a polite laugh.  You feel depressed and sad and they give you a 'there, there' type response.  You tell them you are excited about something and you get a very ho-hum response.

• Why they are toxic: People who aren't sincere or genuine build relationships on superficial criteria.  This breeds shallow, meaningless relationships.  When you are really in need of a friend, they won't be there.  When you really need constructive criticism, they would rather tell you that you are great the way you are.  When you need support, they would rather see you fail or make a fool of yourself.

7. Disrespectful Dannys: These people will say or do things at the most inappropriate times and in the most inappropriate ways.  In essence, they are more subtle, grown up bullies.  Maybe this person is a friend who you confided in and uses your secret against you.  Maybe it is a family member who puts their busy-body nose into your affairs when it is none of their business.  Or maybe, it is a colleague who says demeaning things to you.

• Why they are toxic: These people have no sense of boundaries and don't respect your feelings or, for that matter, your privacy.  These people will cause you to feel frustrated and disrespected.

8. Never Enough Nellies: You can never give enough to these people to make them happy.  They take you for granted and have unrealistic expectations of you.  They find ways to continually fault you and never take responsibility for anything themselves.

• Why they are toxic: You will spend so much time trying to please them, that you will end up losing yourself in the process.  They will require all of your time and energy, leaving you worn out and your own needs sacrificed.

All of these personalities have several things in common.  1) the more these people get away with their behavior, the more they will continue.  2) Unfortunately, most of these people don't see that what they do is wrong and as a result, talking to them about it will fall on deaf ears, leaving you wondering if you are the crazy one.  3) Most of these people get worse with age, making their impact on you stronger with time.

Frankly, life is too short to spend your time dealing with toxicity.  If you can, avoid spending mucho time with people who are indicative of these behaviors and you'll feel a lot happier. Have you encountered these personalities?  What have you done?  Any personalities you would add?

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Warning Signs of ABUSE
Still, the majority of victims of physical, sexual and emotional abuse are female. Here are several signs that a guy/girl may be abusive.

Women/Men beware of a your guy/girl or spouse who:

• Is jealous and possessive; Demands attention and obedience.
• Has a quick, explosive temper; Wants to isolate you.
• Insists on being alone—even on a first date—and tries to shut out your friends and family.
• Makes disrespectful comments about women/men.
• Has an abusive parent or other family member.
• Is often angry, violent or aggressive in normal situations.
• Makes inappropriate sexual comments or advances or uses Sex as a weapon or makeup tool, making you feel defiled and dirty (raped).
• Blames his actions on anything but himself/herself.
• Is destructive or cruel.
• Humiliates, yells or criticizes you in private or public.
• Insists he is right all the time.
• Ignores your wishes.
• Wants to know more about you than you know about him.
• Makes you feel guilty, that you can't do anything right, or that you deserve punishment.

If you are in an emotionally, verbally or physically abusive relationship:

• Don't blame yourself. No one deserves abuse.
• Call the police or go to the hospital immediately after a rape.
• Check out:
  seeitandstopit.org from the Teen Action Campaign
  troubledwith.com from Focus on the Family
  loveisnotabuse.com from Liz Claiborne, Inc.
• Tell a parent, older sibling or pastor. Or call:
  The Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network's (rainn.org) National Hotline: 1.800.656.HOPE
  National Domestic Violence Hotline (ndvh.org): 1-800-799-SAFE
  The Dawson McAllister Hope Line (thehopeline.com): 1-800-394-HOPE

 

Questions to Ask before Leaving an Abusive Relationship

By.  Hadassah Shabnam Lal

Whether your life or job is filled with daily onslaught of cursing, neglect, mental, emotional or physical abuse you need to ask yourself some serious questions as to whether you deserve this hell of a life, or not. Read the following questions, pray and seek not just wise counsel, and closed minded (but educated counsel). Then decide whether it’s worth it.

• How much satisfaction am I finding in this situation or relationship?
• Can I honestly see myself living like this in this situation the rest of my life?
• Is there anything I can possible do to make my present situation more fulfilling?
• If I stay, what will I really be missing? Moreover, where could I possibly find it?  (remember that bad habits are harder to break than good ones, that’s why they have al-anon, and all sorts of recovery groups from bad addictive habits); No one has yet created a recovery group from too much love and respect; ha, ha.

• Are there any “benefits” of my remaining in this terrible destructive situation? 
• Do I seem to have a need to be unhappy or to be abused? (Has it become my normal?)
• Do I seem to like getting sympathy and am constantly drawn to abusive personalities in my friendships, work situations, and romantic relationships?
• Will this situation be like this forever? On the other hand, is there a realistic chance it will change? (If you have been in this for more than 5-20, 0r 30 years) then there is more than 90% of a chance THAT IT WILL NOT CHANGE.
• If your abusive spouse is 40-50 plus, they have spent decades becoming who they are, most likely they are not going to change.
• What are the advantages of staying? (Am I too lazy to move, deal with loneliness, or miss the furniture and my surroundings?)
• What are the advantages of leaving? (Will I find a new love, pursue new interests or resurrect old ones? Be happier?
• What are the advantages of staying or leaving? If its economics (wrong reason) it is true what they say, money cannot buy you happiness or love.
• How will others be affected by my decision to leave or stay? (If you have children, it is going to be tough "they say familiarity breeds contempt, or children or both); (if you do not have children thank God, it’s a no-brainer and get out quickly); (if you have pets, remember their life span is short (unless it is a tropical bird, in that case, it might outlive you).
• Is a clean break necessary, or would a major change be too costly?  Oftentimes, in situations of abuse, a clean break may be your one chance to get away from your abuser alive, or sane. Moreover, the cost could be preservation of your life and sanity and if children are involved, their safety and mental health as well.
• Do I lose anything by leaving? Make a list, if the list goes something like (stress, ill health, high blood pressure, insomnia, tears), then you are better off leaving. Things can be replaced, houses can be replaced, and your sanity, health and peace of mind on the other hand, are PRICELESS.
• Would my loss or losses be a permanent loss, or one I could eventually replace or learn to live without?  It’s easier to replace the bad with the good, it’s easier to live without stress, and abuse (unless it has become your normal, in which case you will need to get some type of support system in place, and seek some counseling).
• In what settings and with which persons (friends, family, new hobbies and interests), can I best meet my needs? Still feel important and valued?
• What dreams and expectations are within my reach now that I have exited my abuse hell, and how can I fulfill those (some of which may be God-given dreams that were hindered)?
• Just remember a break up is called precisely that, because your relationship is “broken” so you are going to go through a “death, grief, but then also a chance of a new life (resurrection) from the lessons learned”

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