Still, the majority of victims of physical, sexual and emotional abuse are female. Here are several signs that a guy/girl may be abusive.
Women/Men beware of a your guy/girl or spouse who:
- Is jealous and possessive; Demands attention and obedience.
- Has a quick, explosive temper; Wants to isolate you.
- Insists on being alone—even on a first date—and tries to shut out your friends and family.
- Makes disrespectful comments about women/men.
- Has an abusive parent or other family member.
- Is often angry, violent or aggressive in normal situations.
- Makes inappropriate sexual comments or advances or uses Sex as a weapon or makeup tool, making you feel defiled and dirty (raped).
- Blames his actions on anything but himself/herself.
- Is destructive or cruel.
- Humiliates, yells or criticizes you in private or public.
- Insists he is right all the time.
- Ignores your wishes.
- Wants to know more about you than you know about him.
- Makes you feel guilty, that you can't do anything right, or that you deserve punishment.
- Don't blame yourself. No one deserves abuse.
- Call the police or go to the hospital immediately after a rape.
- Check out:
seeitandstopit.org from the Teen Action Campaign
troubledwith.com from Focus on the Family
loveisnotabuse.com from Liz Claiborne, Inc.
- Tell a parent, older sibling or pastor. Or call:
The Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network's (rainn.org) National Hotline: 1.800.656.HOPE
National Domestic Violence Hotline (ndvh.org): 1-800-799-SAFE
The Dawson McAllister Hope Line (thehopeline.com): 1-800-394-HOPE