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True leaders are forged through the crucible of life. Mr. Donald J. Trump is no stranger to being the glaring public eye and having no privacy whatsoever. I mean seriously, the Master Baiter Media constantly rips into Mr. Trump about his marriages, which I believe is so wrong. As much as they try, more stories have surfaced about the kindness Mr. Trump has shown a lot of people. Just like many of us, he has been through the crucible and pain of divorce, not once, but twice.
Life is short, thus staying in a marriage that is miserable or unhappy, is not wise especially for the sake of “the kids or the dogs & cats.” I know of so many people who do that, but often the children are saying behind their backs, I wish they would leave. Regardless of what is said, divorce is not a violation of the Ten Commandments. Nowhere in the Ten Commandments does it say “thou shalt not divorce.” Divorce was actually allowed in the Old Testament in the event of hardening of the heart or other circumstances. See some of my blogs on unhealthy marriages or abuse. While Mr. Trump was blessed to have not experienced such (and yes men do get abused) no one can really judge when it comes to matters of the heart, and what goes on behind the closed doors in families. His first marriage which produced three beautiful children (Ivanka, Donald Jr. and Eric) was alleged to have been due to his affinity for Marla Maples. Amazingly, I read in an interview with New York magazine of the entire Trump family where Mr. Trump states that he “simply left not for another woman, but just left.” As someone who chose to end a very unhealthy marriage, I could see why. Sometimes when a person is extremely driven or has a call on their life, it just doesn’t work. Sometimes people just grow apart or are miserable. As he stated in the interview; “I’m a really good father, but not really good husband. He goes on to say that his children do love him a lot. In the aftermath of his two marriage that did not work (but then over 50% or more marriages in America don’t work); Trump goes on to say, “But I’m married to my business. It’s been a marriage of love. So, for a woman, frankly, it’s not that easy in terms of relationships. But there are a lot of assets.” This was said in 2004. Trump’s second marriage to Marla Maples ended after nearly six years together (they married in 1993, and were divorced in 1999).
It’s important to note, that even when a divorce is impending and done, it is still a painful process. Some would rather be cowardly and stay in a rotten even abusive marriage rather to face the music and be done and walk the hell away. Trump is human, and he mourned the loss of his marriage by isolating himself in a small apartment on a lower floor of Trump Tower. He went days without leaving the apartment, while having food delivered to him. Master Baiter Media tabloids were cruel as he partook of his failure in front of millions. No privacy granted to this man. No one deserves that.
Donald J. Trump did not give up on love. That’s why I posted “Lord I’m lonely” by © FollowerBand on this blog, as all of us have felt lonely one time or another. Since then he has married the beautiful Melania Knauss after dating her for a number of years. It would take a strong woman who has her own life to be married to someone like Mr. Trump as he is constantly busy, and now running for the Presidency, even more so. On his marriage to Melania he had this to say: “A good marriage is like negotiating an important deal: You have to consider all the factors thoughtfully and thoroughly. If you were investing a large part of yourself and your fortune into a venture, believe me, you’d make sure you thought about it for a long time first. That’s how I see marriage. It’s serious, and it’s important. I’don’t approach it any more haphazardly than I do a very important deal. In fact, considering the amount of deals I’ve made compared to the number of marriages I’ve had, I’d say I’m quite cautious about marriage. You should be, too.” I recall watching him on Oprah one time when he explained that he hoped to get love right. Don’t all of us wish for that? Don’t all of us want to be married to our best friend? Someone who will hold us? Be there in our darkest hours? God did not make any of us to be alone.
Let’s keep one thing in mind Donald J. Trump is a man, and God did not create man to be alone. According to John Eldredge author of Wild At Heart, every man needs a battle to fight and a beauty to rescue. Mr. Trump is no exception as now his beauty to rescue is America and his battle to fight is for the American people. Fortunately for him, Melania is a wise woman and supports him 100% in his efforts, and has elected to be a great spouse taking the role of motherhood and protecting their son as her husband weathers the storms of fighting the Master Baiter Media and the lying opposition in his run for the Presidency.
Lastly I would like to say, everyone needs “Someone to Hold” to love them, care for them in the midst the turmoil and to share life with. It is my heartfelt prayer that all goes well for Mr. Trump. We need to elect him for the Office of the President of the United States of America. If there is one thing I can say about Mr. Trump he knows his flaws, his strengths and his heart. I respect the man immensely, and pray for him constantly.
Other Painful Moments
In his teen years, his father saw something in his son that he knew without discipline might lead him astray, so he placed him in Military School. That decision helped shape Mr. Trump into what he is today, however I recall reading that his instructor at the Military Academy Ted Dobias noted that Fred Christ Trump was very hard on his son, really a tough man. Trump credits those years with instilling in him the characters of toughness and negotiating abilities as well. Trump’s conservative views were shaped along with tough military skills. He has often been the target of the Master Baiter Media who know that they can make money from his failures and successes. In fact, they were not happy when he made the decision to run for President as they would lose a lot of money. Fox had the highest ratings on the Presidential Debates because of Trump. His empire nearly crumbled several years ago, but he persevered and came back strong.
In the midst of his very public life, and painful failures Mr. Trump never turned to alcohol or other illicit drugs as he lost his brother to alcoholism, thus he made a decision to be Stone Cold Sober. The World of God gives clear warnings about Wine and Drink. Proverbs 4:17 “For they drink the bread of wickedness, and drink the wine of violence.” Proverbs 20:1 “Wine is a mocker, strong drink is raging: and whosoever is deceived thereby is not wise.” Mr. Trump is a wine man. The Bible further states about alcoholics: “Proverbs 23:30-34. “They that tarry long at the wine; they that go to seek mixed wine. Look not thou upon the wine when it is red, when it giveth his colour in the cup, when it moveth itself aright. At the last it biteth like a serpent, and stingeth like an adder. Thine eyes shall behold strange women, and thine heart shall utter perverse things. Yea, thou shalt be as he that lieth down in the midst of the sea, or as he that lieth upon the top of a mast.” The preceding are some powerful words from the Bible. Many of us who know alcoholics personally can attest to their behavior. Alcoholism is a sad, sad curse. I have known several alcoholics personally, and know many who are functional alcoholics.
I think the more I study Mr. Trump the more I realize how much the principles of the Bible have taken roots in his character. He values family and is a big proponent of the strength of families. He values loves his children and is an awesome father. He is wise and uses money as a tool. He has learned negotiation skills and is blod like a lion. He has strong faith as well. Maybe that’s why we love him, because he understands America, he understands our successes, our pains, our sorrows and failures like no one else can. He’s been a single parent, he’s been through divorce, he’s been bankrupt, and he has overcome; isn’t that what we need in a leader? It is so disheartening for me as an America when I see the Master Baiter Media treat him like he has no heart, or that he doesn’t bleed or hurt like the rest of us, believe me he does, he’s just more private about it, which is difficult when your life is on display 24/7 in the glaring spotlight. I would hope after reading this blog, you would seriously go vote for Donald J. Trump.